June ruts

Last night, not one but three neighbors ended up coming over, for various reasons.

Here are two of them. Neighbors, I mean. Not reasons. That’s R and her husband, Mr. R. The two of them are the bomb and they’re almost as good as having Peg for a neighbor.

Night before last, another friend of mine stopped in, and Lily got immediately on his lap, as Lily is hypersexual or something.

The point is, it’s been lovely having visitors lately, but it’s not the norm for me anymore.

I fear I am in something of a rut.

I go to work five days a week. I go to my trainer two days a week. I go to dinner with my neighbors on Friday night. But other than that I pretty much clean my house, read books, grocery shop, and play fetch with the dog.

I am thinking I should take up a new interest, but I have no idea what that should be. I really did consider taking boxing lessons after I liked it so much with my trainer; I looked into classes and then never did it.

So my question to you is, what should my new interest to be? Give me some ideas! I should probably also look into therapy for slutty Lily.

So what should I try? A new religion? Scuba diving? Ceramics?

75 thoughts on “June ruts

  1. I like the Podcast idea that a few commenters suggested. Interview people and explore their hobbies and jobs. June the Journalist.

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  2. What about joining or starting a Pickleball league? I can’t play with 2 new knees and a new hip…but I do like to say it…Pickleball! Salty or sweet?

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  3. P.S. Don’t do ceramics/pottery. You would hate it–you’d always have dried-out hands and mud-caked fingernails.

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  4. Great suggestions. I think you would rock improv. Write your book- a must read! I would love to learn to make something from wood. My sister just started dog walking at the local shelter, but I think you would end up with a pet-overload situation. Photography classes. Plan a big trip to take in the future. Card clubs sound dun too.

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  5. What the heck? My comment posted 3 times! It kept asking me to sign in every time I tried to post so I did, thinking it didn’t work. Sorry! Feel free to delete two of those! Sheeze!

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  6. What’s a skill you’ve always wanted to develop? Music? Textile arts? Painting? Cake decorating? Maybe you could take some classes and just see what you like.

    Oooh! Stand up comedy! You’d be brilliant!

    What happened to writing a book? I thought you mentioned that a few years ago. I’d read it!

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  7. What’s a skill you’ve always wanted to develop? Music? Textile arts? Painting? Cake decorating? Maybe you could take some classes and just see what you like.

    Oooh! Stand up comedy! You’d be brilliant!

    What happened to writing a book? I thought you mentioned that a few years ago. I’d read it!

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  8. What’s a skill you’ve always wanted to develop? Music? Textile arts? Painting? Cake decorating? Maybe you could take some classes and just see what you like.

    Oooh! Stand up comedy! You’d be brilliant!

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  9. I think your week sounds fabulous! I echo everyone who said volunteer at the shelter because you are SUCH a good foster mom. This way the shelter pays for the food and you don’t have to scream home at lunch. Plus, you know you can’t get another dog (thanks, Edsel) so you can just give the love you have to the shelter babies until they find a family for keeps. Also, one day when you least expect someone may come through the door that is totally worth dating – tall, dark and attentive but not smothering. If not, dogs. What could go wrong?

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  10. Is there a musical instrument you always wanted to learn to play? Seriously — nobody is too old. I took up the cello at 50. I later joined a community orchestra, which has rewarded me with good friends and a consistent calendar of rehearsals and performances. It’s really great for keeping your brain in shape, too, proven by actual science.

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  11. A female colleague at my last job loved boxing as her workout. Our age and she boxes three times a week. Evidently, it is quite popular with some woman.

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  12. The suggestions here are wonderful! And hilarious! I might add volunteering at the library or walking dogs at your local shelter. I volunteer at our local branch and it’s great fun and perfect for my book-related OCD. The kids aren’t my thing, but as a volunteer, I can just say no. What are they gonna do? Fire me?

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  13. Jiu Jitsu- it’s what I’m doing as soon as I have a little extra money. I want to be able to kill someone with my bare hands.

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  14. there are some really interesting ideas here so mine might be lame-o but do you have MeetUp.com in your area? A friend of mine used it when she was newly single, to find random folks to do things with. TBF, most of her outing turned out to be alcohol-related (sad trombone), but she did also find groups of women who wanted to read, or go to the movies, or try a new restaurant, etc.
    So even if you don’t know exactly what it is you might want to do, you might see something that piques your interest for at least one night of out-of-the-rut.

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  15. These are all such good suggestions! I’m drawn to the volunteering ideas, like a food pantry or other service/mission groups. My work with the food pantry gets me interacting with others outside my usual group, increases my empathy and provides a real sense of satisfaction in addressing the needs of others.

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  16. I started brush lettering (aka hand lettering, aka modern calligraphy) several months ago and now I can’t get enough of it. It’s relaxing and fun at the same time. As soon as I think I’m good enough, my plan is to open an etsy store and sell irreverent and uninspirational phrases all hand lettered by me, because really you can never have enough snark in the world.

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  17. I know you tried knitting before, but think about crochet. Crochet is looser, easier, and more forgiving than knitting. It’s easy, meditative, and relaxing.

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  18. And here I am reading your weekly activity agenda thinking “sounds like the perfect life”. But I do like the ideas that have been shared to take a class or learn a new skill. A woman I know took a welding class (weird I know) but now she welds and sells art pieces and does commission work. She never had an inkling that she would love to weld. So dabble is what I’m suggesting.

    I also love the idea of a card club. My mom used to be in bridge club and that always seemed so exotic and fun to me. Eight ladies getting together to play cards and eat snacks, rotating houses. Bridge club night was always something she looked forward to. I thought it was for the mixed nuts, bridge mints, and M&Ms. More likely it was for the mixed drinks, but to each their own.

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  19. I like the idea of volunteering at Chris and Lily’s farm. If I had the time I would volunteer at our local Raptor Rehab organization.

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    • Hey Cheryl,
      We have a raptor rescue center here as well (Minneapolis). I did a birthday outing there last year, and it was really fun. You could see the ones that were used for school talks, but the ones still in rehab you had to view on cameras. I just really wanted to see owls close up, which was cool. Eagles and hawks are not uncommon around here, particularly along the Mississippi during fall migration. Then there can be hundreds circling the river. Quite the sight.

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  20. I notice it takes two people to almost be as good a neighbor as Peg. I am glad you found them.
    I like how you are getting to know your neighbors. That seems pleasant.
    Maybe they have ideas on fun things they do ,out.
    I am thinking I wouldn’t commit myself to one thing, look around and try several things that interest you .
    Maybe goat petting, zoo visiting, walking dogs at the shelter, a country drive, out to eat once a month somewhere different each time, coffee shop people watching, or anywhere people watching, antique shops, second hand shops. Pretend you are retired and enjoy life.

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  21. What about… classes (in whatever trips your trigger) * museum docent * the boxing thing * dog grooming lessons * non-competitive fitness walking (volkssmarching) * swimming * volunteering on Chris & Lilly’s farm * cooking classes * geocaching. As a fellow ADD-er, I get it.

    A few years back I took a beginning drawing class at the local high-brow art college. I loved it. Still suck at drawing, but every Wednesday night that whole summer, I was an artist for three hours. I need to get back to taking classes. I love taking classes. My perfect job would be workshop attendee.

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  22. When I need something new I take an online class and shut myself up in my little studio with my paints and my laptop. Leave me alone!
    When my best friend needs something new she finds 5 friends and organizes a 20 a mile kayak trip. My way would make her slit her throat, her way would make me drown myself. Why are we even friends? Oh yea, every once in a while I peek out of my studio as she’s collapsing from the wilderness trek. We love each other best.

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  23. Maybe starting with the source of the desire for more could help. Are you feeling lonely, or a need for more physical activity, intellectual stimulation or learning something new, close friend interaction, cozy sharing or group fun, excitement of doing something new, knowing that you have unused talent that you want to offer? Just empty hours you want to fill and you don’t care how because haven’t I met you and what part of ADHD don’t I get?

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  24. It’s cool to slow down and enjoy the roses as well.

    But I understand. I’m going to take a crochet class. My dad, retired, started volunteering at a nature centre. So perhaps you could volunteer someplace?

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  25. Life moves pretty fast most of the time. Every now and then, it’s good to be in a rut! That way when a new opportunity finds you, you are ready to jump on it. You used to enjoy yoga. Hey, there’s an emoji for yoga! 🧘‍♀️

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  26. Cocktail making, movie club once a month go to movies after movie have movie cocktails so any Russian themed movie Moscow mules, any Mexican movies margaritas, Cuban mojitos etc this can be done alone or with someone and you can make the cocktails without alcohol if you are migraine susceptible this also works with books book set in the south mint julips …

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  27. Card club? My mom joined one a year ago and they meet once a month and play cards for two hours! She loves it.

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  28. I would like to find a taphophile group to join. Do you have nice old cemeteries there? I blieve you have mentioned that you enjoy a good cemetery too. I would love some real world death hag friends.

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    • That does sound fun to me and I think June does like cemeteries. On one of our first dates my boyfriend stopped an old graveyard and we joked about how weird some might find that. He likes to find gravestones with the same names as his friend’s, snap a photo and send it to them.

      Have you ever heard of the website Atlas Obscura? It’s a great place to find offbeat tourist attractions and other unusual things. There’s a lot of cemeteries on it. That would be a good pastime, to visit all of the things in your area. Every time I travel I use it to find at least one spot to check out.

      It recently took us to a Hare Krishna temple and community on the top of a mountain in West Virginia. That is a memory that will last a lifetime.

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      • Thanks for mentioning Atlas Obscura. I just went down a rabbit hole looking at their site for my state and one nearby. This could entertain me for hours.

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      • WOW! That is so cool! My non hag but RN BFF is going to the Mutter Museum with me in Philadelphia soon. She took her son there for extra credit while he was in high school. She’s game to go back. I am wishing for the fates to send me a kind, mellow hag widower. Tall order.

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  29. I’ve begun reminiscing about all the time I had as a kid to read, look at grass, ride my bike just for fun, play cards and board games, sit on the back porch, etc. I’m trying to convince my driven self to slow down.

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  30. The boxing would be great exercise. You don’t like crafts, me either, but I do sew, mostly little dresses that teams from my church take on mission trips. Maybe volunteer work in your community. What about helping someone to read, you seemed to enjoy that in the past.
    Tee

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  31. I know you like to read….I joined a book club about a year ago and we meet once a month and I enjoy it so much. You may be able to find one that doesn’t meet as often as that if you prefer, but I think you would quickly become the favorite club member.

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  32. Knitting! I have just joined a knit a long (KAL) to make a sweater. The challenge is to make it quickly. It is not a race but just a fun community of people all knitting the same pattern encouraging each other. We share pictures of yarn and progress and post our questions when we need help. It may sound lame but this is the highlight of my summer staycation.

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  33. Knitting? My hair guy took it up and taught himself watching YouTube videos. He’s been teaching classes on it now for years and is publishing his own design/pattern soon! I’ve always wanted to learn how to knit so hopefully it’s something I can pick up when life slows down a bit!

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