June reaches her limit

I woke up before the alarm went off and I thought, “Wow! I slept all night without waking up, even after all the crap that happened yesterday! I don’t usually do that after a good day!”

I rolled over to shut off the alarm so I wouldn’t have to hear it, and it was 11:20 p.m.

I’d been asleep 20 minutes.

So.

Anyway, that was jarring. Yesterday, I mean. It was jarring and upsetting, and here’s the thing.

I really have no patience for anyone who’s going to try to tell me, “Oh, that was just a protest like all the Black Lives Matter protests.” or “That wasn’t us who stormed the Capitol. That was ANTIFA!”

I even saw someone who had the nerve to say, “Those people were DEMOCRATS with MAGA hats on!”

If you’ve read me for awhile, and who here hasn’t, really, you know for nearly 15 years now I’ve said, OK, let’s not be hysterical about “the other side.” After presidential elections, I always have us write comments where you have to say something good about the political side opposite yours, and snide remarks get deleted. I deleted an 86-year-old liberal—repeatedly—because she couldn’t play by the rules.

But if you still think what Donald Trump led people to do yesterday was “just a protest” or if you’ve now backed off and said, “Oh, that wasn’t us,” go away.

I mean it. Go away. I don’t want you on here. I don’t want you commenting. I don’t want to know you in real life.

You are a terrible person and I’ve had it. Go rethink your life choices.

I get that you’re angry. I get that you feel unheard. But you’ve taken a bad path.

If you’re a Republican who understands that Donald Trump is a dangerous person but you’re still conservative and proud of it, I’m absolutely fine with you being here. I welcome you here. I’m not only fine with people having opinions that differ from mine, I think it’s important that we all have different beliefs. If I don’t listen to other reasonable thoughts, how the hell am I going to learn anything?

But I’m not fine with people who are willfully ignorant and violent. What happened yesterday was un-American, and truthfully all that “I’m an American” stuff never meant that much to me except on September 11, 2001. But it’s become a hell of a lot more clear to me now just how important it is that we respect the electoral process and hey, here’s a thought. How about we act like grownups?

So, in the end, I didn’t sleep well last night. But I did decide that much. If you were OK with yesterday, my tolerance ends here. And while my tolerance for dumb, easily Google-able questions and advice has always been limited, my tolerance for other opinions and beliefs has always been a point of pride for me. I’ve always detested the vilification of people who differ from me. It’s always seemed absurd and shortsighted.

But this? This I won’t tolerate.

[shuffles papers, leaves dais]

134 Comments

  1. I was so happy to have 2020 behind us. It’s been exhausting. But 2021 isn’t starting out so hot and it’s sort of scary wondering what else in around the corner. However, we had one bit of good news, go Georgia!

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  2. Thank you for this.

    I had a busy morning yesterday with work stuff. Finally broke for lunch early afternoon, thought I’d tune in to the news for a few minutes. I saw security guards pointing guns at a door, in the Senate. It took me a few seconds to process what was happening.

    Still shaking my head.

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  3. Amen! Thank you for writing so articulately. I totally agree with you.
    I did not sleep one wink last night. I cannot imagine that anyone who witnessed what happened yesterday would be anything but horrified.

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  4. I never comment, and I’m not religious, but Amen! I am so angry when I read comments comparing the absolute horror of yesterday to the BLM protests, I can’t see straight. And I’m devastated at the size of that crowd, of realizing how many of our fellow Americans are embracing a culture of hate and ugliness. The veil has truly been lifted.

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  5. Couldn’t agree with you more. Yesterday was a scary and sad day for our country. I work for an overseas company and the questions and shock I hear from my colleagues is impossible to explain. America is a laughing stock on the world stage. I’ve blocked many ‘friends’ today, I’m done with the justifying and false comparisons, just done, full stop. Our house was an emotional mess yesterday – college kid left for spring semester, sad & missing him already, then you add the shit show in DC and it was just too much. Turned off the news and cranked the music, plus several bottles of wine.

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  6. Your blog, your rules! Way to go! Boundaries are healthy, and we just got a good look at what happens when someone doesn’t have or respect them.
    Like you, I like hearing and considering the views of others. It’s interesting! Usually. Especially when people don’t fall into neat little categories. I tend to be financially conservative and socially progressive. There’s no political party for me. In some ways it’s very frustrating and in others it’s freeing.

    Less that two weeks until our country’s rebound boyfriend, Joe Biden is inaugurated. Counting down the days.

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  7. Absolutely agree. I drew this line awhile ago. We should talk to each other. It’s good to have differences. But anyone who continues to support this…unruly and disgraceful behaviour is out of my life. Because now I know your true colours.

    Same with several celebrities. Not that they care, but my stomach turns now when I see them.

    Anyway. I didn’t add anything to this discussion other than I won’t be leaving because I am not the kind of person you’ve described above.

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  8. Those were treasonous, seditious and idiotic insurgents and should have been arrested and prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I didn’t read other comments, but if those protestors had been black, they would have been mowed down by the police and secret service. Trump needs to be impeached right now and removed from office, after which he will be prosecuted by the State of New York. Aunt Kathy

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  9. I originally thought yesterday was The Onion reporting a story and then appalled it was real and actually happened I cannot believe that this was allowed to happen am really hoping for a better outcome for 2021. Also can picture you writing a scathing typewritten letter.

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  10. Yesterday was agonizing. Husband and I were alternately furious and heartbroken. The cats went bonkers due to the energy we were emitting.

    I am ashamed to be a white person.

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  11. I’m right there with you! What happened yesterday was a terrorist attack on democracy, committed by a bunch of overgrown, brainwashed, toddlers who are having a tantrum because they didn’t get their way. I find it fascinating that they love to call others sheeple, even though they are the ones blindly following someone who is clearly mentally unwell. My small circle has gotten even smaller in the past 24 hours because I have zero tolerance for anyone who condones yesterday’s attack!

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  12. Thank you, June, for your words. Amen. I’m still in a quandary about what to do about the close family members who have posted such hateful stuff on Facebook. I’ve unfollowed a few in the past months, but am very close to unfollowing about all of them. It’s breaking my heart. Last night someone stated they just wanted to forget the events of yesterday. Folks, we CANNOT forget! Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it!

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  13. I cannot agree more with every thing said. I am horrified with what happened and how it didn’t impact those that supported it. I am trying very hard to believe in the goodness of humanity but it is becoming more and more difficult.

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  14. I am a Republican but I have always thought Trump was a big bratty nutball asshole even before he became President. I did not vote for him. What happened yesterday was unAmerican and fucked up. It made me very sad.

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  15. Dear June –

    I am one of the long time readers that has never left a comment before but today’s post is worthy of not only a comment, but thousands of them!
    The paragraph below needs to be shared far and wide – your words state the only way I see back from the mess this counrty has become and I thank you so very much for them.
    “If you’re a Republican who understands that Donald Trump is a dangerous person but you’re still conservative and proud of it, I’m absolutely fine with you being here. I welcome you here. I’m not only fine with people having opinions that differ from mine, I think it’s important that we all have different beliefs. If I don’t listen to other reasonable thoughts, how the hell am I going to learn anything?”
    Thank you for your thoughts, your time, your talent . . . I look forward to more deep thoughts, beautiful words, and serious laughs.

    Jessie – Charleston, SC

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  16. This is my FAVORITE June. The “I’m smart and funny and kind and care about you, but I will not tolerate this anymore” June.

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  17. Yesterday I was shocked. But, sadly I was not surprised. The last 4 years have been remarkable with the hate mongering that been allowed and fertilized. I keep asking myself “do they really believe this nonsense?” sadly, they do.

    Bravo June!

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  18. Very well said. I am feeling very much the same. So tired of being angry, disappointed and disgusted by the behavior of some. Yesterday’s “events” makes me fear for our democracy. Sending out big hopes for peace, safety and at least a little more unity. Soon.

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  19. Well said, June. He is what you said that struck me. “I get that you’re angry. I get that you feel unheard. But you’ve taken a bad path.” Yes!

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  20. I made a comment but now it is not showing up as far as I can see, so I’m not sure what happened to it, but I basically said that the last fours years have caused me a lot of sadness and anxiety that I would have never predicted. Hoping things can get better and both sides can come together for the sake of our country.

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    1. Thank you June, you said what needed to be said. I have a crazy fantasy that we could someday have fact based governance instead of ideological governance. The last four years and their alternative facts have been a nightmare…I was a teacher and this whole movement makes me feel like my profession has failed. Stacey in CA

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  21. Yesterday was shocking and horrifying. As already mentioned, the whole world is watching and this is not what our nation stands for.

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  22. You said so well, what I think and believe. I have no patience with stupid and thinking that sort of action and violence is okay (law and order, my ass). I would actually love to talk with people from the other side if they can explain their POV without calling me a snowflake or libtard. I think we need the diversity; we don’t need the mindless and dangerous tantrums of someone who can’t handle losing an election. Thank you.

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  23. I absolutely agree, I’ve always considered myself a progressive conservative, a conservative liberal, something like that. I’ve voted Republican and Democratic over the years. But this mess has nothing to do with political parties. In my state of Georgia there are GOP funded billboards urging people NOT to vote for the Republican candidates. ??
    This is an unhinged, egocentric leader creating a group of followers who have devolved into terrorists. We have Americans insisting we throw out citizens votes and have the supreme court appoint our leader instead! These people clearly have no concept of dictatorship or fascists regimes.

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  24. Agreed. I’m tired. I’m actually exhausted. I have no energy left to focus on good things.
    And I apologize to everyone for that buffoon Ted Cruz. I didn’t vote for him.

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  25. Love this post and I couldn’t agree more. Sad, disgusting, misguided Neanderthals. Oh, wait, that might get me kicked off here. Sorry! BTW, I am still blocked from leaving a post on your lovely blog. Not sure if it’s something I’ve done at my end or what. So, there’s that.

    Your mother’s neighbor

    Sent from my iPad

    >

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  26. Thank you. I also didn’t sleep well last night but I did not call out “tired”, I’d have to call out tired for the next two weeks.

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  27. Thank you for this, I totally agree. I’m a firm believer that our different perspectives make life better but respect is also absolutely necessary. The 45 mob has no respect at all, even for themselves.

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  28. Totally agree, thanks June. I have three people in real life that went down this rabbit hole four years ago. It’s been challenging, to say the least. This might be the last straw.

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  29. I’m very glad some Republican members of Congress were brought up short and withdrew their objections, but they shouldn’t expect too many pats on the back. And soon-to-be-Senate Minority Leader McConnell’s “downward spiral” speech is important and may persuade people who need persuading, but I keep thinking, “Too little, too late, Senator Enabler.” I’m trying to tell myself “better late than never,” so I hope it will start some meaningful change. Wish I could say this better, but I hope this is focused enough on yesterday’s events, and I’m grateful that you write so well and keep expectations high for us, June.

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  30. Yesterday felt like 9/11, when I had to explain to my children what was happening and try to reassure them. Yesterday my granddaughter happened to be staying with me and again I had to reassure a child that she is still safe and all will be ok. Except this time, the terrorists were Americans and they were incited by our president.

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  31. Thank you and well said! I just happened to tune into some news radio on the way to school to pick up my daughter and her friend, maybe for the first time in over a year, and I could not believe what I was hearing. I had to shut it off and pretend like everything was fine. Nothing is.

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  32. Amen to all this and good for you. Yesterdays events were reprehensible and I’m pretty sure that’s the first time I’ve used that word in real life.

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  33. I babysat for 3 infants and 2 toddlers yesterday. It was loud in here. Pure chaos. I had the news on in the background, but I didn’t find out till later what all that news was about. I. WAS. APPALLED. My in-laws are Trump lovers, no matter what. Mind blowing. This guy is sick. I’m a conservative, but I am baffled at how people still support him. Thrilled to hear Twitter might shut off his account. As they pointed out on my favorite morning news this morning, other countries are watching. People hold us up- they want freedom from their situations and they look to the US as a symbol of freedom. How embarrassing.

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    1. I think that fewer people are looking at the USA as a symbol of freedom. As a Canadian, I’m nervously eyeing the longest unprotected border in the world. Stay safe. We are all hoping for Biden to begin healing all that is broken.

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  34. When Lindsey Graham stands up to rip on Ted Cruz who cited precedent of JIM CROW, we know we are in a reckoning within the GOP. I agree that this was similar to the feeling of 9/11. I am horrified. How my heart breaks for our country–OUR country. I can’t say that I think anything will change. The past four years have left a gaping wound in our democracy. I still choose to hope that we can have bipartisan support to suture the tender, fragile tissue back together.
    I stayed up to MAKE SURE the votes were counted last night. I am certain that my lack of sleep made the difference.

    Thank you, June for standing up for truth today.

    Lovely post, lovely June.

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  35. Yes to all of this. Thank you June. I had to cut some people loose yesterday. I am tired of it all. Reasonable differences of opinion is a good thing. Lunacy and conspiracy is not. I’m done with it.

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  36. Very well said and I agree 100%. I have hidden so many posts from people who should know better. Yesterday was horrific. To people who think yesterday had any justification – well, no, there is none. Thank you for your words Karen! Hugs.

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  37. I’m at the same point. I think the dumbest comment I’ve seen mentioned the “fascist antifa.” The stupidity makes my head hurt. And I will not waste any more energy trying to reason with these fools.

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    1. Trying to reason with a Trump cult member is like trying to reason with a drunk toddler. It cannot be done so it’s a waste of time even trying.

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  38. Please note that the elected officials from my state of Oklahoma are nutless bastards and I’m ashamed for them. Only after the riot did one decide it was in America’s interest to certify the ballots. However, one representative did not and I had the pleasure of watching him shit his pants after the police killed the woman protester. No, I’m not ready to make nice. In fact, I’m just getting started.

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  39. Dear June, may I request a repost of a few photos of the boy cats in the trees, touching noses and romping? It’s endearing and adorable beyond belief. It’s one of the few things (animals and their charm) that will help me heal from the shock of yesterday. God help us all.

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  40. I hadn’t removed or blocked anyone from any social media based on their political views, despite some people not having the common courtesy to accept that people are allowed to have and voice different opinions. Even those people with whom I agree, but they were disrespectful and unwilling to accept differences. I didn’t block them, I just scrolled on by. However, after yesterday’s horror show, I spent considerable time blocking people this morning. I still respect their right to have a differing opinion from mine, but I don’t want to hear/see it just now. Nor do I want to hear their thoughts on my views. Things are too raw.

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      1. I have a dear friend of many years whose only takeaway from the whole day was, “that’s fake news”, and “Trump is our most loved president ever”. The denial and delusion is so strong it’s hard to know how to deal with it.

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    1. Blocking them from your social media feeds removes the small part of a platform that they can use to spread their garbage; it’s the small part of a platform that you control — your feed, which other contacts do see. It’s a sensible thing to do. Signed, Small but Mighty. Hee!

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  41. I have never loved you more. (Well, there was that time when Francis was drugged and you put him in wigs and hats. How I adored you!) Thanks for making this a good place.

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  42. And this is why you’re my favorite.

    I was actually applauding Mitt Romney last night, so I can absolutely respect those with differing opinions who conduct themselves with sense and decorum. It’s those who worship Trump like he’s some sort of god that I am trying to eliminate, on social media and in life. I think they’re beyond reason. Yesterday was terrifying and infuriating.

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    1. On the news coverage up here (Canada) was a Trump admirer who literally said “Anything he says is the truth, I’ll believe whatever he says.” It’s like someone blindly following a cult leader and not realizing they no longer are thinking for themselves – – and bragging about being that stupid, in public!

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  43. Exactly.
    It’s funny (not haha) that you mention 9/11 as that’s exactly what I felt like I was watching while the events were unfolding. Thankfully it wasn’t the same loss of life level but it almost feels worse because our own people did this to our own people. I can’t decide whether I’m more sad or disgusted on top of being mad because after all of our time in lockdown, being so careful – not many of those people had masks on yesterday and they’re going to get on planes to go home. This was a giant party for them while I’m racing through the grocery store like my ass is on fire every three weeks to limit Covid exposure.

    You’re pretty.

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  44. I live overseas and my non-American friends expect me to be able to explain what’s happening in the US. I DON’T KNOW! The whole thing is unimaginable and yet completely believable after the past four years. Sad to say, but I’m glad not to be “home” right now. Good for you, June.

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  45. There’s a meme that’s been going around that says something like “Normalize changing your opinion when you’re presented with the facts.” I have a lot of respect for the Republican members of Congress (and Pence) who quickly changed their tune when they saw “the facts” first-hand yesterday.

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  46. I’m terrified about the remainder of his term.
    And I wish Facebook would step up and also mute him.

    That’s all

    Thanks for being a voice of sanity

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    1. Facebook doesn’t care. I reported a friend who posted the trump video twitter deleted for promoting false info and facebook did not care.

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  47. Agree! Well said. I live just outside of DC and was under curfew last night. Passed a couple groups of these idiots and their stupid flags on the way home. No, I did not run them over.

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    1. That took a lot of inner strength on your part. I was so angry watching the mess that I would have been sorely tempted to at least swerve over a bit.

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  48. So well said. As a Canadian (who has spent a lot of time in the US) my heart breaks for the vast majority of reasonable law abiding Americans who are horrified and distraught over the events. Thank you for letting us finish with a little chuckle – you just cannot help yourself [shuffles papers, leaves dais] hah. Love to all of you guys. You don’t deserve this in your beautiful country.

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  49. Standing clapping.
    My whole family are in the category of supporting Trump no matter what. I have told them again and again I respect the office of the President but unfortunately I can not respect the man. They have tried to argue that he is a Christian and stands by Christian values. I am sorry this happened to our country. I am sorry that we as a nation have become so divided and have had a leader who has deepened that division with vitriol and violence. Let’s all hope that we can do better, be better

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    1. I have the same situation with my family, gladyswhoisalsobee. It is so difficult. I feel as if it’s become a cult and only an extreme intervention would change their minds. But even then, not likely.

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  50. Oh I so feel you on this. I am all for difference of opinion but it has been so hard to stand by while people support this nut job, who by the way is laughing at how he has manipulated his core to do his dirty work. This is how the left felt when Hilary lost and there actually was some shenanigans going on then and this didn’t happen. Hilary wasn’t out there egging the crazies on. And I don’t even like Hilary but just sayin’.

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  51. I have been busy blocking people over it. Both family and former friends. I am okay that people voted for him, but I will NOT stand for anyone condoning or approving of yesterday. Rant over.

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    1. What happened was shocking and wrong. But Big Change sometimes need this something like this to happen first. That’s my optimistic take on it. Sleep better, June. Don’t let them wear you down. There are more of us! We just haven’t all been awake.

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