Vacation, all I ever wanted {waves from water ski}

I’ve extended my time at my trainer, because I cannot even stand myself. Usually I am a big fan of myself so this is unusual.

Anyway, I was there today and we got on the subject of vacation styles. It turns out, she and I would vacation well together, other than the part where she might just up and ask me to do a plank like it’s normal. But for us, we’re on vacation to lounge about. Nothing irks us more than our vacation mate asking, “So, what’s on the agenda for tomorrow?”

“What time do you think you’ll be getting up?”

“Where do you want to go for lunch tomorrow?”

STOP STOP STOP. Having a schedule and a plan is what happens in real life. I go on vacation to get away from all that. Not that I’ve had a vacation since God was a child.

Marvin was a “Let’s go do stuff” vacationer. Often he’d go off for the day, exploring and popping into places, while I lay prone on a beach. We were fine with this arrangement.

The times I vacationed with Ned, I was pleasantly surprised that he was a lounge vacationer. In real life, he’s all What do you wanna do next? What time shall we do it? What will we do when we get there? kind of a person.

So what’s your vacation style?

56 thoughts on “Vacation, all I ever wanted {waves from water ski}

  1. If it is a week at the beach, I plan to lounge on the beach most of the week, with maybe one day of going to some shops. I use the word lounge loosely since that’s a trip with kids, so lounging includes reapplying sunscreen to kids, fetching their snacks and drinks from the cooler, etc. If we are going to a city for a long weekend, I like to plan one thing we will definitely do. Everything else is a maybe or we will see what we come across. We are very laid back vacationers. I sometimes feel like we don’t take advantage of the things to do wherever we go, but we are constantly on the go at home, so I need vacation to be NOT THAT.

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  2. I love travelling solo and planning my daily outings.
    I also love being able to ditch those plans if I’m not in the mood or get sidetracked by something else.
    On my last trip to Hawaii I went to the beach for an hour twice, mainly for my new swimsuit’s benefit.
    I had more fun taking long walks on the beach and the Waikiki trolley up to Diamond Head, shopping and having cocktails in my friend’s favourite gay bar, as he needed a new tank shirt.
    I also love dressing differently than I normally do at home, which seems to add to my holiday mood.
    In 2019 I spent two months in the UK, staying at an Airbnb, visiting family and friends and doing my own thing. It gave me lots of time to sightsee and have downtime whenever needed.
    It was wonderful.

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  3. I would be 100% bored out of my mind if I had to sit all day. I do sitting in my job. I want to sleep in a bit, then have a leisurely breakfast before I do something. I don’t want a rigid agenda but I do want to have a pleasant walk, check out galleries, go bird watching or something appropriate to the locale. But never with a timetable – when I went to the UK with my son we had to pre-book accommodation because it was their summer holidays and I was not going to be seperated from him at 3 years old. And even pre-booking that was more of a rigid timetable than I was comfortable with.

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  4. Ah! June! You are back! I am happy to read your words that I love so much.

    I enjoyed your little kittens and I also am still sad about Iris. I am standing in your doorway for that.

    As for vacation: My husband NEEDS activity. I do not. I don’t mind staying in a rented lake home up north and bringing food to reheat, but I don’t want to actually cook. I just want a stack of books, my kids, and the water. Sure, I’ll go out to dinner, or wine tasting, or even to do the bumper boats, but only sparingly.

    If we take a trip, like to New York, for example, then I want to do some things. I want to go to Broadway, or off Broadway, and see some live theater. I want to eat at cute, delicious restaurants. I want to go to the Met, and maybe take in some other museums. But, I don’t want to do ALL OF THESE THINGS in one day. I want to meander. Fly by the seat of my pants a bit and plan a bit. I don’t want sore feet.

    So, I guess it depends with me. But vacation is definitely a time of rest, not a time to do.

    I missed you, June!

    Lovely post, lovely June!

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  5. When we got married my husband planned our entire honeymoon, and by the second day I thought he hated me. I was exhausted. Now we still plan ahead, but don’t stress if anything on the list goes by the wayside. I’m a nice hotel kind of girl — nothing beats room service and a comfy bed — and I love afternoon tea, but our favorite part of any vacation is driving through little towns and villages where we can stop and meet local people and avoid touristy areas.

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  6. I create a google doc for my family if that gives you any indication. That probably sounds horrific to you! Haha.

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  7. Definitely a no plan. My real life is way too hectic to want to spend my days off that way.
    A beach, a bottle, and a book. The End.

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  8. Probably both. Just no cruises. Not my thing.

    In foreign countries, I like to get up (at a reasonable hour), and do activities and such, but incorporate leisurely meals, coffee time & such. Love going to the beach, museums, archaeological sites. I do like a hotel for the beginning and the end, but flexible in between. Like to explore. You just never know when a boat in a Greek harbor will offer a “Shirley Valentine” experience that you need to take.

    In Minnesota (Land of 10,000 Lakes), we go ‘up north’ which can also include Wisconsin. If I’m doing a cabin weekend somewhere, I like to be in lounge mode. Sun, lake, beer, games, naps, books, walks.

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  9. I just want a “go with the flow” vacation – like a lot of others here! I like driving vacations best. You can just stop when you like, eat when you want. No plans. Occasionally there may be something you want to see but not always. And I really agree with all who say hotel – not airbnb However, I like RV vacays too. So I can have my animals along! Hard if too hot out of course.

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  10. We like to go and do, but in the mornings only. Then we relax by the beach or pool the remainder of the day.

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  11. Unless I’ve traveled to somewhere to actually see the sights, like in a foreign country, my vacation style is like my retirement style. Sleep when I feel like it, eat what and when I feel like it. Do what I feel like doing. Which is often nothing.

    A friend whose hobby is keeping my yard looking good drives me nuts asking what time I’m getting up and what I’m doing the next day. “I’m retired…whenever and whatever.” This past year has solidified that attitude for sure. I’m not resuming many activities I had in 2019.

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  12. In 2019, I went to Mexico with my dear friend for our 50th birthdays – just a few months apart so we wanted to do something extra fun. I always thought I was a go and do kind of vacationer but I agreed to go to an all-inclusive resort and I have to say it was freaking amazing. We were there for 9 days and we had one day where we did a full-day tour and the rest of the time was lounging by the pool and lounging by the ocean and lots of really delicious meals at the various restaurants. It was amazing. I think 1 out of 9 days was the perfect amount of activity for me.

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  13. I’m a little of both depending on where I am. I do like to park the car for good and walk everywhere if we’re in a city, lounge at a long lunch, maybe shop or hit a museum, head back to the room for a refresh and do the same for dinner. We’ve started asking bartenders/waiters at the first restaurant we hit where they like to go, and ask at each subsequent place…have found some really cool places that way. I’ve rented a couple of places on Airbnb before but decided I hate doing the crap I do at home so now it’s only hotels…and I splurge for nice ones, I’m on vacation! Beach vacations I’m at the beach all day, the hubs needs things to do so he plays golf or whatever, I don’t care, he knows I’m sitting at the beach all day.

    I’ve never really thought about this, thanks for bringing it up!

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  14. GodDAMMIT, I had a whole comment and WordPress decided to be a dick and tell me my comment cannot be posted. FINE then.

    Anyway, my husband and I have never taken a vacation together in all the years we’ve been together because we have completely different ideas of what we consider fun. His idea of fun is anything to do with riding dirt bikes. That’s it, that’s the list. He’s not happy unless he’s riding. The thought of sitting on a beach doing nothing would cause him to stick a spork in his eye and twist it. His vacation every year is a week-long dual sport motorcycle ride across the Rockies with a bunch of cronies.

    As for me, it all depends. Sometimes, all I want to do is sit on a beach and doze or read or float in the water. Other times, I want to see things and go go go. One thing I do NOT like to do is get dressed up when I’m on vacation. If it involves putting on makeup, I’m out.

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    1. Lounge. Do not arrange outings and this, that or the other. Dan was all about excursions and going out and about. He had a very hard time relaxing. On one vacation, we finally got into a big fight. I refused to go one one of his planned outings. He FINALLY got it and actually learned the fine art of relaxation. Jeez.

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  15. I’m totally a lounger. I want to go to the ocean, with a book, soak up the sun and enjoy the beauty of the water. I don’t mind making reservations for one or two nice dinners because I do love food. My husband is a doer. Constantly. We were planning a trip for our 25th anniversary and he asked if I wanted to go to a beach. We agreed and starting planning. Then he started up with, “we need to go snorkeling, parasailing, scuba diving, fly to the moon, check out Mars.” We didn’t go to the beach.

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  16. My idea of vacation is no watch, no make up, and no jewelry. As relaxed as possible with no schedule and no alarms going off. If I miss breakfast, so be it.

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  17. Once upon a time, my then-boyfriend/now-husband invited me along for a few days in Charleston. There were two places I was really looking forward to seeing, and he told me no problem – he’d make sure we got to do those two things.

    When we arrived, we settled into our hotel room and I took a shower. When I came out, he confessed that he had just looked at his phone for the two places I wanted to visit – and they were both closed Mondays and Tuesdays. It was Sunday evening. Soooo now I’ve become a quasi-super-vacation planner. Don’t get me wrong, I love a lazy beach vacation, too – but someone’s gotta make sure the beach is actually, you know, open and not covered with murder crabs or something.

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  18. I love a road trip, but just to see stuff from place to place, stopping whenever and wherever we see something we want to do or stop to eat. We don’t reserve rooms ahead of time, usually, so just end up the day when we’re ready. We do love the hotel pool lounging — one of our best ever vacation days was in Virginia Beach, but at the hotel pool (though we did spend time at the beach, too). I like the June way!

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  19. I hate making plans ahead of time. I’m more of a let’s go and see what’s here on the fly person.
    My husband wants to plan what time we are coming back type of person.

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  20. I’m a mix. I try to balance sightseeing and doing stuff with quiet days at the hotel / resort. If nothing else, after a day or two on the go, everyone needs a rest! Because I work in public education, I get a lot of lounging around time, so if we go on a trip, it’s to see somewhere new.

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  21. I’m more of a go-er while on vacation. I do like some time to just hang out with whomever I’m traveling with, especially if it’s a trip with people I don’t normally see regularly. I don’t like just lounging on the beach or by the pool. I find that boring and stressful. I’d rather explore and see and do.

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  22. I’m with you. My favourite vacations have been ones involving a lounge chair by a pool, with a good book (or better yet, my kindle, so I can get the sequel without moving), and someone else to bring me drinks. My only issue is that the sun moves, so I need to keep chasing the shade.

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  23. I do love the occasional beach day with a good book, however my preference is very active. My husband and my favourite trips are our 2 “Caminos”. We hiked across Spain 800 km in 23 days. 3 years later we hiked Portugal 750 km. Same through Italy is in the works. Most people think we are crazy, weird or both (pa I’m 65 & he’s 68)

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  24. I am a lounger. I want to sit at the pool. Read a book. Take a nap. Luckily, my husband is the same.

    The first time we went on an all-inclusive vacation, we did way too much. Four wheeling, speed boats, bus trip – ugh. We wished we would have just spent more time at the pool so from then on, that is what we have done.

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  25. Do nothing and I mean do nothing – I do not want to preplan the meals, the sites the etcs – I want to bring my clothes and that is it – I once went on holiday where the meal prep, grocery shop, sites was planned and no no no never again – also I do like a good patio in walking distance of holiday location so I can try holiday cocktails – it is not a holiday until you pay way too much for a beverage.

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  26. I’ve never had a lounge vacation. Vacation usually means travel, which many times means road tripping, so I plan stops and hotels and things to see wherever we are. I might plan a down day somewhere along the way. Maybe I should try this lounging that you speak of.

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  27. I am a total relax at the beach gal. My husband is let’s go to Las Vegas and go, go, go. So I go to the beach with daughters and only to Vegas with him in the summer. Because there’s sun and I stay at the pool all day.

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  28. I’m a lounger. I like to vacation where there are a few things to do if you feel like it, but nothing that requires too much effort. A couple places nearby to find good food, a beach or a pool, maybe an outing one afternoon. That’s enough.

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  29. My general preference in to schedule within an inch of my vacation’s life, including scheduling three hours to relax on a beach. However, I’ve come to enjoy the games and food multi-generational vacation as an option. For my adult kids who bring their kids this is a family trip but not a vacation, as there are so many needs of young children they still tend to. But I’m leaning to like them.

    BeeBelle

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  30. I’m a little of both. If I’m going somewhere I’ve never been before, I want to see everything. I’m very much a planner and scheduler. My sister always said if you went somewhere with me, I’d run you ragged, but you would see everything.

    We like to go to Maine and when I’m there, I’m content with setting a chair out by the lake and reading and chilling all day. My husband is a big fisherman, so he likes to fish all day. I’ll go with him, but I’ll sit in my kayak and read and just bob around the lake while he fishes. Everyone’s happy.

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  31. Hmmmm!

    Here’s how I see it. A TRIP is something you take to go do the things. See the things. Etc.

    Vacation is for the lounging and decompressing.

    I’m more of a lounger.

    My husband is the “what’s on the agenda” type. All the time. It irks.

    Like, a TV show we were watching finishes and just as the credits roll the question comes flying at me–what do you want to do next?

    And I will admit I’ve snapped at him several times for it. Because it’s famn exhausting to think and plan for every second of the day.

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  32. I am a mix. I like some shopping and doing things days and some just veg time. My best friend is go, go, go and she wore me out in Cape May many times. I have sent her out on her own sometimes but she isn’t that happy. I would have Charlie Horses at night before I discovered magnesium supplements.

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  33. I’m a “DO ALL THE THINGS” vacationer. The earlier the better. Breakfast at 7am? Yes! I’m there! I want to know what time we’re leaving, where we’re going first, what’s for lunch, what cute stores can I pop in while we’re there, etc. My Disney World vacations have been scheduled to the minute. I don’t care if that’s crazy – I walked on to Peter Pan’s Flight while those other people waited over an hour. If I’m going to pay a zillion dollars for Disney, I want to get my money’s worth!

    The only place I’m different is at the beach. There, give me a lounge chair, a book, and a cold drink and I will happily sit for hours (for about 3 days, then I start getting antsy and want to find something else to do…)

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    1. I am 100% this. If we’re going to a place we’ve never been before and are likely not to return soon, I want to see ALLLLL the things. All day. I’m not paying big bucks to lollygag around my hotel room in Ireland. There’s food to eat! Paintings to see! Churches to visit!
      Conversely if we’re at a resort, I rarely leave.
      What I DON’T do is rent a house or condo. If I have to plan meals, shop, cook, clean up that is not a vacation for me. I’m not paying someone for the privilege (ha!) of doing the same crap I do at home in a slightly better location. Nope! I want restaurants and cleaning service.

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  34. To me the very definition of Vacation is to have no plan. We just came back from the Outer Banks, a place we’d never been before. I planned two outings over the five days – a kayak tour for all 5 of us and a fishing trip for the boys. Then I was done. What are we doing next? Don’t ask me. Wanna go see where the Wright Brothers took there first flight? God no, I hate history in most forms, but enjoy yourself whilst I lie here reading my book.

    My mom was an “every second must be planned” person in regular life and vacation life, and it was painful, God rest her soul. Always had to know where we were going next and what we were going to do about supper and what about tomorrow, what will we do then?

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  35. I am the exact opposite of Let’s Do Stuff. The only schedule I keep is deciding how early I need to get out to the beach to beat all the other yahoos and claim my perfect spot. I’ll be out there most of the day with a pile of books and my one good beach dog. I can’t stand having to do real life things when I’m on vacation, even going to the grocery store. We usually bring enough food with us for the whole week.

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  36. I WANT to be a do nothing vacationer, but I don’t even know how to go about doing it, so I usually come back to work as exhausted as when I left. Help me!

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  37. I’m DEFINITELY a “lounge around” vacationer. Sometimes (depending on where I go) I feel guilty for not exploring and seeing the sights. If I pay to go somewhere I feel like I should go do all of the things! But in the end I usually just lay about, eat and shop.

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  38. I want to just rest on vacation because by the time I get to the destination I exhausted. I love not having a routine, as if I have one now being retired. If we are in a never before visited place I do want to see the area, but not early in the morning type of getting out for the day.
    Tee

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  39. I’m a lounger, the husband is a do stuffer. Same as in real life. He leaps out of bed and takes on the day. I pry my eyes open long enough to figure out how to make coffee. Opposites attract. Or attack. >grin<

    CommandoBarbie

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  40. I am a lounger. I don’t want to cook dinner, do dishes, coordinate activities. I want to read and be mute. I like to drive and gawk. Maybe we will stop. Maybe we won’t. We are currently at the beach and there are relatives vacationing here that want to make plans. Nope. Don’t visit you at home, not visiting you here.

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    1. Oh my goodness, do I LOVE to drive and gawk. Even just taking a day drive in the corner of the state that I live in gives me joy and relaxation.

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  41. Depends where we are, if I am at the beach, I just want to sit and read, maybe take a dip. But my husband and I went to Europe for 3 weeks and we were all about seeing everything. I usually try to do a mix where we have lounge days and do stuff days but I don’t need to schedule those out. I am fine going with how you feel when you wake up. My husband and I were just talking about all of this and I think this stems from vacations when we were kids and weather reports not being what they are today. We both often vacationed at lakes and if it was sunny when you got up, it was a lake day, if it was raining we went to town to check out the shops and stuff.

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  42. STAY STILL. Vacation is for DOING NOTHING. NO THINGS. Gimme a comfortable chair, a good sunny spot by water, a few snacks in the fridge, and leave me be.

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  43. I’m a totally wing it type of vacationer. I love a road trip with no real plan. Some recent plans were “Let’s head south” or “Let’s go to Maine”. No true destination and no reservations. That way if I see something interesting on the road (and I always do) we can stop and not worry about what time we need to be where. Luckily my husband is fine with this.

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  44. gimme a beach, a book, and an umbrella, and I am VERY HAPPY.
    also, people bringing me drinks all day, if possible.

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